It’s Friday and I’ve Got Men on the Brain

Checking in with a quick happy Friday and a recap of what’s on my mind this week…men.  LOL!  Let me explain.

I just watched Derek Jeter clinch the final win of his career at home.  The Yankees have a very special place in my heart and so does Jeter.  I went to Fordham University in ‘da Bronx’ and I remember those years and my years as recent graduate going to many games.  Back in the day, my man was Paulie (Paul O’Neill) and Derek’s rookie year was 1995, the year I graduated.  I remember always thinking he was ‘fine’, but as the years went on and I was working in Public Relations I marveled at whoever his interview coach was…he always said the right ‘we are a team’ message.  Now, like any other celebrity, we don’t really know what they are really like, but I think it does say something that over 20 years (crap, have I been out of college that long??) he has been consistently a great role model and hard worker on and off the field.  It’s pretty hard to find someone who will say a bad thing about him.  As we were watching the pre-game, the announcers (Michael Kay…Go Rams!) said something about him never embarrassing the organization and my husband said, “Why is that such a big deal?  You not supposed embarrass your employer?”  I think it’s so true and sad that there are not more role models like Derek Jeter in the sports world.  Not to say that every other sports figure isn’t a good role model for our children…but hell, we could definitely use more.  To say I was a sobbing mess at the end of the game was an understatement, but when he hugged his parents…I went into the ugly cry.  Props go to them…well done!

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The other man on my mind is also from my college days.  I’m not sure what I did in a previous life to deserve this person and I think I’m a pretty good judge of character, but we were just babies…  How could I have known that this guy:

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would become this man?

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I have no idea why I lucked out, but I will be forever grateful for my best friend.  It hasn’t been perfect, but boy do we laugh A LOT (and isn’t that what it’s all about?)

So Happy 16th Wedding Anniversary a day early Kevin.  I adore you!

– kate

 

 

 

It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year (cue the music)!

Okay, I swore I was going to be just like this guy this year:

Apparently I was all talk.  See for the first time ever I was so excited for today…everyone’s been at each other (alot!) and momma needs a schedule!

Then this morning arrived…

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Michael, 7th grade, Kevin, 2nd grade and Anna, 8th grade

Mike wouldn’t wear his new shirt, but combed his hair without being asked (you don’t understand…this is huge!).

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Anna got her braces off yesterday, she looks like a young woman and it hit me like a brick wall that she’s going to be in high school next year.

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And then I walked Kevie to his class and he was so nervous.  He found his seat, sat and wouldn’t look around to see all his friends.  After a couple of minutes, I leaned down to tell him that I was heading out and intently keeping his eyes on his word puzzle he shook his head no.  I quickly put on my sunglasses, stayed another minute, kissed the top of his head and headed out cursing the fact that my car was a mile away and I needed to keep it together at least until then…

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It’s all good, but as usual, it’s all going too fast.

So using (or stealing…however you choose to look at it) the sentiment of my friend Elizabeth….Happy New Year!!!  Here’s to a fabulous year!

PS  And if you’re like me and haven’t cried enough today, Taylor Swift has penned a note to those kids that are not looking forward to today, saying to a fan that has been bullied, “Just don’t let them change you or stop you from singing or dancing around to your favorite song.”  You can read the whole note HERE, now I’ve got to go to the grocery store and the gym, and clean the house before pick-up…oh crap, it’s a half-day.  I better leave now to get a parking spot. 🙂 – kate

When did this happen??

First off…Happy New Year!!!  Thank you for all the support last year as I start this new adventure…it means the world to me!

The break here was good and I’ll highlight some of our favorite holidays traditions, old and new, in the future…but on to more pressing matters.

Our baby, Anna, arrived at 3:35 am on January 4th…13 years ago!!!  Can someone please explain to me where the hell those 13 years went!!!????

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When I look at these photos, my heart literally hurts with so much emotion.  I can’t even begin to imagine what empty-nest syndrome is going to feel like (let me apologize in advance, Kevin).

I think the two things that surprised me most about becoming a parent is the fact that it is impossible to fathom the amount of love your heart can hold for these human beings and the equal amount of fear your brain will manifest regarding said humans.

Don’t get me wrong, this is the best job I’ve ever had or will have…I mean it is so much freakin fun.  Seriously, I love that our family knows how to have fun.  (For example–we always do our Christmas stockings on Little Christmas and for various reasons we had a small ice cream cake in the freezer.  What a perfect excuse to eat cake!  So yesterday, Kevin, who was working upstairs, joined us after school for stockings and cake.  This led to a whole discussion about awkward office birthday parties.  Kevin said we all had to stand around to eat our cake, while having awkward conversations…  Of course the kids had never heard of this, stories ensued and we all ended up on the floor laughing.  I said to Kevin last night that Anna is going to be standing in a conference room years from now eating cake and is going to start laughing.)

But the other part of parenting for me is the worry.  I worry about every choice I make as a parent.  Overall, I think that my kids are happy (when not being asked to do anything around the house) and they are good people.  What more could I want?  Kevin and I have had tons of parenting conversations (you know, on those date nights when you are not supposed to talk about the kids) and in the end the two things we stress are academics (they are sick of hearing, “your only job is to get the best grades you can get”) and to be a good person (but a couple of years ago i did add “but don’t take crap from anyone” after a couple of issues).  We don’t always get it right, but I think we are going to continue on that path and keep reevaluating our parenting choices as we head into the teen years.  Please pray for us. 🙂

I get that life can’t be perfect, but I think it’s a parental instinct to want to protect them from pain.  I need to remind myself that they will learn from both the good and the bad.  I guess what I want is for them to have more good days than bad.

So my dearest Banana (yes I will always call you that),
I hope you have more good days than bad.
I hope you have more good days of feeling confident in who you are.
I hope you have more good days of doing something you enjoy doing.
I hope you have more good days of ending up on the floor from laughing.
I hope you have more good days with moments where you close your eyes, point your face towards the sun and smile.
I hope you have more good days with people that just get you and you get them.
I hope you have more good days with random dance parties.
I hope you have more good hair days.
I hope you have more good days where you find yourself singing in the shower.
I hope you have more good days of truly feeling that you are loved “bigger than outer space”.
I hope you have more nights of lying in bed thinking “that was a good day and I can’t wait for tomorrow”!
And on those few bad days, I hope you can remember all the good days and know that “this too shall pass”.

Anna, you are truly loved bigger than outer space and we are so proud of who you are! Love, mommy

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P.S. You are still really good at “the look”! 🙂

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Anna’s party hair brought to you by Jessica Lewis from Capello in Waldwick, NJ
(one of the best Aunts and stylists in the world!). 🙂